God’s perfect plan for some Christian women struggling with singleness is to wait passively and to keep praying for a future husband. His perfect plan for other women who are just as single is to go on an adventure to find true love. It can depend on your season in life. Maybe God asked you to be passive, waiting, and not dating when you were in your teens and your…
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A Tour Inside ChristianCafe.com Dating Site / Online Dating for Christian Single Women/ Christian Singleness / What It’s Like Inside Christian Cafe?
Let’s take a tour inside ChristianCafe.com the Christian dating site I used to: (1) successfully find a godly future husband wonderfully compatible with me, and (2) finally returned the gift of singleness in exchange for the gift of marriage! This is a photo of me and my husband on our wedding day: (Just so you know, I’m an affiliate with Christian Cafe because that’s where I found my much-adored husband Thomas.)…
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How to Encourage a Godly Man to Pursue You via Facebook
One morning you meet a wonderful man! He seems to have a godly Christian character. And he’s single! But you meet him at a conference, and you’ll never see him again after the event is over. Or he’s a guest speaker at your church this Sunday. The next day he’ll go back to his hometown hours away. Or you meet him by chance at church. But you’re in a huge…
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How to Prevent Christian Singles from Getting Married – A Demon’s Guide (satire)
(a satirical conversation between two demons, in the tradition of C.S. Lewis’ Screwtape Letters) Senior Demon loves preventing singles from getting married, and teaches Junior Demon how to do it right. This is intended to be comedic rather than doctrinally perfect. Please don’t derive doctrines from comedy, but only from God’s Word 🙂 . Junior Demon: Teach me how to wreck Christian marriages, and ruin their children. Senior Demon: You…
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Christian Single Women Share about Singleness and Their Desire for Marriage – Part 2
If you haven’t yet, read Part 1 first. Several marriage-minded single women shared additional thoughts with me: “I often thought that if I didn’t pursue dating that God would just usher a man onto my doorstep and I wouldn’t have to do any work. Your blog is confirmation that there is nothing wrong with be intentional and proactive. I’ve found great encouragement here. Thank you for sharing and I can’t…
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Christian Single Women Share about Singleness and Their Desire for Marriage (Part 1)
Many marriage-minded single women who receive my Get Unstuck Get Married newsletter shared their heart, their struggles, and questions with me. This is a sample of some of their letters. I changed their real names out of respect for their privacy. From Jenna who read the first chapter of my book: “I’ve only read the first chapter and wow. I needed that action step about refusing to look at coincidences…
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Quick Online Dating Tips: For the chaste, godly woman who wants to be married in the near future.
Thank you for suggesting that I put up a profile on Christian Cafe. I have talked with a few men, and I’m so positive about the whole experience. I have yet to meet someone in person but I’m impressed with the number of great men on the site. God Bless you greatly. A female reader recently sent me the email above and made my day! I especially like that she…
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Return the Gift of Singleness (Part II)
The Daring Search for a Christian Mr. Right I asked God how to find a godly husband and return the gift of singleness, and I trusted Him to give me insight into what steps to take. Eventually, my mind was filled with many ideas on finding The One. I turned those ideas into action and found the man of my dreams. If you haven’t read Part I yet, please read…
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Return the Gift of Singleness: How a Christian Single Woman Found Mr. Right in 4 Months by Making This One Change to Her Mindset (Part I)
Before God led me to find a godly husband and return the gift of singleness, I was a Christian single woman over the age of 30 who wanted to be married. But I wasn’t meeting anybody right for me or even dating. Yet, I was doing everything correctly, according to Christian courtship books. In this post: Rules That I Thought Would Guarantee Me a Great Love Story Harmful Christian Teachings…
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Christian Single Women’s Relationship Questions and Tough Love Answers
What’s the line between being proactive in looking for a godly husband and being desperate? I don’t want to be desperate. Answer: The line is easy to determine. If you’re willing to rebel against God and sin to get into a relationship, then you’re desperate. You’re also making an idol out of marriage if you want it more than you want to obey God. But if you’re very proactive in…
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