(a satirical conversation between two demons, in the tradition of C.S. Lewis’ Screwtape Letters) Senior Demon loves preventing singles from getting married, and teaches Junior Demon how to do it right. This is intended to be comedic rather than doctrinally perfect. Please don’t derive doctrines from comedy, but only from God’s Word 🙂 . Junior Demon: Teach me how to wreck Christian marriages, and ruin their children. Senior Demon: You…
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Christian Single Women Share about Singleness and Their Desire for Marriage – Part 2
If you haven’t yet, read Part 1 first. Several marriage-minded single women shared additional thoughts with me: “I often thought that if I didn’t pursue dating that God would just usher a man onto my doorstep and I wouldn’t have to do any work. Your blog is confirmation that there is nothing wrong with be intentional and proactive. I’ve found great encouragement here. Thank you for sharing and I can’t…
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Christian Single Women Share about Singleness and Their Desire for Marriage (Part 1)
Many marriage-minded single women who receive my Get Unstuck Get Married newsletter shared their heart, their struggles, and questions with me. This is a sample of some of their letters. I changed their real names out of respect for their privacy. From Jenna who read the first chapter of my book: “I’ve only read the first chapter and wow. I needed that action step about refusing to look at coincidences…
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Quick Online Dating Tips: For the chaste, godly woman who wants to be married in the near future.
Thank you for suggesting that I put up a profile on Christian Cafe. I have talked with a few men, and I’m so positive about the whole experience. I have yet to meet someone in person but I’m impressed with the number of great men on the site. God Bless you greatly. A female reader recently sent me the email above and made my day! I especially like that she…
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Return the Gift of Singleness (Part II)
The Daring Search for a Christian Mr. Right I asked God how to find a godly husband and return the gift of singleness, and I trusted Him to give me insight into what steps to take. Eventually, my mind was filled with many ideas on finding The One. I turned those ideas into action and found the man of my dreams. If you haven’t read Part I yet, please read…
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Return the Gift of Singleness: How a Christian Single Woman Found Mr. Right in 4 Months by Making This One Change to Her Mindset (Part I)
Before God led me to find a godly husband and return the gift of singleness, I was a Christian single woman over the age of 30 who wanted to be married. But I wasn’t meeting anybody right for me or even dating. Yet, I was doing everything correctly, according to Christian courtship books. In this post: Rules That I Thought Would Guarantee Me a Great Love Story Harmful Christian Teachings…
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Christian Single Women’s Relationship Questions and Tough Love Answers
What’s the line between being proactive in looking for a godly husband and being desperate? I don’t want to be desperate. Answer: The line is easy to determine. If you’re willing to rebel against God and sin to get into a relationship, then you’re desperate. You’re also making an idol out of marriage if you want it more than you want to obey God. But if you’re very proactive in…
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5 Amazing Ways to Use Your Husband List to Find Your Future Husband
Some wise people recommend writing a Future Husband List about the qualities you want in a Christian husband, and some others just as wise recommend against it. I can see the pros and cons of each position, but as someone who LOVES journaling it was natural for me to write such a list when I was single. I find that making a list is valuable if you focus on internal…
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How She Changed Her Dating Strategy and Found Her Husband
In this interview I’ll address: (1) what caused my season of unwanted singleness to last so long (2) what made me revolutionize my approach to finding love (3) how did I find, date, and marry my husband (what did that process look like?) (4) what bad advice lead many Christian women to grow out of their childbearing years without ever finding someone to marry (5) what good advice I have…
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Hi! I’m Veronique Butterfield. I have a heart for single women in their 30’s, or older, who lead a God-honoring life and desire marriage, yet have no signs of Mr. Right anywhere. I live in Freezeconsin (Wisconsin!) with my huggable husband, along with his Bible commentaries, grammars, and lexicons. I grew up in France (hence my French first name, French accent, and occasional wonky English grammar). My passion: Helping chaste marriage-minded single…
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